Writing Your Own Wedding Vows? Here's What You Need to Know – Plus Inspiration from Scioto Reserve Couples

There’s something undeniably powerful about a couple standing face-to-face, speaking words straight from the heart. Writing your own vows can be one of the most emotional and memorable parts of your ceremony at Scioto Reserve Country Club. But it also comes with questions: How long should vows be? Should we memorize them? What should we say?

We’re here to help. Whether you’re on the fence or fully committed to writing your own, this guide is filled with tips, inspiration, and thoughtful answers.

Should You Write Your Own Vows?

If you want your ceremony to feel personal, emotional, and completely yours, custom vows are a beautiful way to share that with each other and your guests. Writing your own words lets you:

• Reflect your unique love story

• Celebrate your quirks and promises in your own voice

• Set the tone for a heartfelt ceremony

That said, if writing feels overwhelming, you can always modify traditional vows, write them together, or speak from the heart in a simple but meaningful way.

How Long Should Wedding Vows Be?

Keep it short and sweet. Most personal vows are around 1 to 2 minutes per person.

• Aim for 150–200 words

• Focus on key moments, a few sincere promises, and your hopes for the future

• Practice reading aloud to check the pacing and emotional tone

Tip: If you and your partner are both writing vows, agree on a rough length so one doesn’t unintentionally overshadow the other.

Should You Memorize Your Vows?

There’s no right or wrong. Here are your options:

• Memorize them if you're confident and want uninterrupted eye contact

• Read from a vow card for a heartfelt but pressure-free delivery

• Repeat after your officiant if you get stage fright but still want to speak personalized words

Pro Tip: If you decide to read them, Scioto Reserve can provide a custom vow booklet that becomes a keepsake after the big day.

Inspirational Vow Quotes

Need a spark to get started? These quotes can help guide the tone or be woven into your vows:

"I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you." – Roy Croft

"You are my today and all of my tomorrows." – Leo Christopher

"Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same." – Emily Brontë

"I promise to encourage your dreams, because through them your soul shines." – Anonymous

"In you, I've found the love of my life and my closest, truest friend." – Unknown

Let these inspire your voice, not replace it. The most moving vows come from you.

A Perfect Backdrop for Your Words

At Scioto Reserve Country Club, our outdoor ceremony spaces and elegant indoor settings offer a warm, intimate environment to share your vows. Whether you're speaking under blue skies, surrounded by fall color, or in the glow of candlelight, your words will feel right at home.

Need a little help organizing your thoughts? Our team is always happy to offer guidance as part of your planning process.

Ready to create a ceremony that's truly your own?

Contact our wedding team today and let Scioto Reserve help you bring your story to life.